Dealing with challenges
Your problems and challenges are gateways to achieve your desires.
Most people look at problems as bad and they want to avoid them at all costs because it simply doesn’t feel good, it’s uncomfortable and not convenient if you are busy trying to get stuff done.
How dare problems arise just when I am about to reach an important goal or when I am so low that I can’t handle any more.
The uncommon approach is: You asked for it! You are inviting those challenges in so you can actually reach your goals.
I noticed in my life that I have had repeated and recycled problems and if I didn’t learn or grow from them the first time – the next time they make their way round is a little bit heavier and tougher until I lose my ability to deal with them.
I came across an article by Steve Pavlina – The Joy of Solving Problems which explains very well the reason why we have problems and challenges in our life.
One thing he shares is to see problems as opportunities. Here is an extract from the blog to explain that:
A more productive perspective is to consider that the activity of solving problems is what really matters. It’s the activity, not the final solution state, that helps you grow.
Suppose that one of your problems is that you’re broke and in debt. If so, I imagine that’s a problem you’d very much like to solve. You may feel desperate to arrive at a solution as quickly as possible. But the greatest value is found in the activity of solving this problem, not in the end result.
One of the reasons I’m doing well financially today is that I solved the problem of being broke about 10 years ago. It was definitely not an easy problem to solve. I had to go through a lot of difficult intermediate steps to become strong enough to solve it. I made many adjustments to my attitude. By lifting those weights, I grew stronger mentally, and my finances soon followed.
Consequently, I know that if I ever found myself broke at some point in the future, I could solve that problem again, probably much more quickly than I did the first time. Even though I have more to lose these days from a financial perspective, I don’t fear losing it. I know I have the strength to bounce back. My real gain wasn’t money. My real gains were inner strength, knowledge, and skill.
What would my life be like if I jumped instantly to the solution state without actually solving the problem on my own? Suppose I won the lottery. At first it might appear that all my financial troubles were solved. But I’d actually be in a far worse position.
As I was going through that period of financial scarcity, I prayed that I didn’t experience a cash windfall. I knew I had to solve the problem on my own. I didn’t want to accidentally get a big inheritance and rob myself of crucial financial lessons and training. When someone gave me lottery tickets as a gift, I got nervous because I was worried I might win.
It was hard dealing with some of those challenges, but I could see that my problems served a greater purpose. They were helping to train me up.
This is an approach that I have adopted in my life is to see how challenges are actually benefiting me right now.
Challenges carry a message, an opportunity for growth, an opportunity to find a new solution and lastly an opportunity to create a new paradigm.
The most valuable exercise I have learned to do is to identify how my current challenge is supporting me to generate a new paradigm for my life. Once I find that I have a new appreciation for the challenge, I invite it in, instead of resist it and I have the opportunity to grow from it.
Here is what you can do to move through challenges easier:
1. Get clarity
We generate a lot of noise in our head over time by not attending to minor challenges in the right way. Create a list of all the things that are overwhelming you at the moment and write down everything that is impacting you.
2. Identify the benefits of the current challenge
Once you see exactly how the challenge is supporting you then you will be able to embrace it. Write down at least 30 reasons why this challenge is actually good for you.
3. Reflect on what goal or personal achievement this challenge is in the way of
Usually when we set a goal in our lives we begin to attract challenges so that we can build our mental and emotional capacity to reach our goal. Here you will recognise that you have unconsciously designed the challenge into your goal without knowing it.
4. Focus on the immediate next step you can take
Instead of stepping into overwhelm, look at how you can resolve the challenge through breaking it down into small chunks and resolving each little chunk on its own. This is much easier and your brain can handle it.